We all worry about our families. When we hear of a tragic car accident, act of violence, senseless accident, or illness we look at our own and feel how fragile it all is. It is fragile, but what can we do? We can’t go back to save those lost. And we can’t live in fear of losing those most precious to us. All we can do is feel gratitude and love for those we still have, and help support others when they suffer from loss.
My friend Courtney is a mother, teacher, photographer, and blogger at Our Small Moments. As of two days ago, she is also a widow after the passing of her 34-year-old husband. Her children, aged 6 and 8, are suddenly fatherless.
Her life was like any of ours in its ordinariness. Then in December her husband Scott was diagnosed with angiosarcoma of the pleura around his lungs. Just that sentence is mind bending. He had a what? Courtney, Scott, and their young children had to quickly adapt to medical speak as they faced Life With Cancer. His illness was fast-moving and extremely painful. His family stood by his side as he suffered and morphed from robust to weak, from full of joy to full of pain.
Within 8 months he lost his battle, Courtney lost her partner, and their children lost their father.
Once in a while things happen that strike home. This is one of those things for me. I look at my husband. I can’t imagine.
Courtney lost her husband. Suddenly. Out of the blue. She no longer has her partner, her best friend, to go through life with. She no longer has her partner, her children’s father, to share the ups, downs, and responsibilities of parenthood with.
Scott lost his life. He doesn’t get to be there anymore. He misses out on everything that happens to his children from this point forward.
The children lost their Daddy. Whatever games they played and moments they shared – be it in the bath, at bedtime, in pajamas on a Sunday morning – they’re over for those kids at just 6 and 8. From now on instead of a hug and a proud smile from their father, a “Your dad would have loved to see you do this,” will have to suffice.
The enormity of this loss, the unfairness of it, and the complete randomness with which cancer struck at the heart of this family is heartbreaking. Again, I look at my husband. I can’t imagine.
I can’t fix the hole in her heart. I can’t give her children back their father. I can’t take the pain and grief from her as she faces this new and unexpected path. But I can do something to help lift her up and ease her mind. I can help by letting her know that she is not alone in this, that people care.
We have set up a fund through GiveForward to help Courtney take care of the huge medical bills that unfortunately accompany an illness like this. A few dollars and a few kind words from each of us can add up to a tremendous difference in the life of this stricken family. Courtney is suddenly a single grieving mother of two young grieving children. Together, we can take this one daunting stress off her plate.
Please consider being a part of the community gathering to catch this family as they struggle on their incomprehensible journey. To donate, simply click here or on the beautiful image below.